Watching an episode of First Dates (unashamedly love this programme) where a father of ten children had a date with a mother of one, both of a similar age and the date, as an observer, could have gone either way but the moment the bill was presented there was no doubt who was expected to settle up and how the evening would end.
As a woman I found the situation uncomfortable as he had made no excuses for his children being his priority and how, with six of his ten children still living with him, he had to manage a very tight budget. So why did she sit back and allow him to pay without any offer of a contribution? Even worse was the fact she acknowledged the fact that his finances might have been stretched to pay for her 3 course meal, with drinks !
International women’s day is 8th March and the theme for 2020 is #EachforEqual
“An equal world is an enabled world. Individually, we're all responsible for our own thoughts and actions - all day, every day. We can actively choose to challenge stereotypes, fight bias, broaden perceptions, improve situations and celebrate women's achievements. Collectively, each one of us can help create a gender equal world”.
The International Women's day is aimed to help nations worldwide eliminate discrimination against women. It is also a focus for helping women to have full and equal participation in this world. It is worth mentioning that International Men's Day is recognised each year on November 19.
The work done by the Suffragettes over 100 years ago in their fight for women’s right to vote was monumental in the quest for female empowerment. Today their legacy continues and much has been made, quite rightly, on the subject of equal pay and conditions in the workplace with the gender pay gap now under scrutiny in most large organisations. Such positive moves are a welcome sign but there does seem to be a conflict of interest in how women want to be treated by the opposite sex and the First Dates programme was a point in case.
Of course we all love to be on the receiving end of gallantry and romantic gestures but these actions should be reciprocated. To have the door opened on your behalf is good etiquette but not necessarily the role of the male to do so. We are more than capable to do the same and so we should.
If we are going to shout out for equality then we need to lead by example with “balance and fairness“ being a better approach to all individual situations.
Ladies, look after the fairer sex and hopefully they’ll look after you…………….God willing!